The author discusses the case of his father who served as the primary caregiver for his wife, who was diagnosed with a vascular dementia. A good day for his father meant that things went smoothly, the aide arrived on time and there were no problems with the physician's orders for medical refills. Following the death of his wife, he continued to live independently and was granted his wish to live and die without suffering. Particular focus is given to the advantages of living alone and the quality of life as a carer.