This is the keynote lecture held by Robi Friedman in Padua on March 3, 2018 during a seminar organized by Asvegra. It is focused on the "Dialogue between genders". In order to heightlight gender differences, the author analyses ample dream material from boys and girls, the way they narrate their dreams and how these dreams are received by their caregivers. Further on, the author introduces the soldier's matrix, explaining how gender differences can especially arise during large group sessions.